There is a widespread stereotype that single Russian women make the best wives and mothers. Some men are brave enough to apply for a visa and catch a plane all the way to Moscow to try their luck finding a bride there. Others justify their lack of courage or opportunity by claiming that the attractiveness of Russian women is but a stereotype and that real-life Russian girls are not that different from those in any other country. How true is this? Let’s take a look at particular aspects, debunk some myths, and separate truth from opinionated stereotypes.
If you try and research about why Russian ladies are considered more beautiful than their counterparts from other places around the world, you will most probably stumble upon that one most widespread theory. As we all know, in the Medieval times, Europe went crazy about witch-hunting. The first colonists in America took this “fine tradition” to the new shores with them, which is most in famously documented by the Salem trials. Often, being physically attractive and declining the attention of men was a sufficient reason to get accused of witchcraft and face the consequences. Thus, females in the West had to undergo something of a negative selection, leaving only less attractive women to reproduce and pass their genes on to the future generations.
In Russia, the witch-hunting craze also took place, but with one crucial difference. If you look at Russian folklore, witches are always ugly – they are old, humpback, have crooked teeth, etc. Evidently, beautiful Russian women had their problems, but they were never accused of witchcraft and exterminated amass.
This is an interesting theory, but when you are looking for a life-partner, medieval history is the last thing that interests you. Wife-seekers want to date Russian women who will become worthy life partners for them, build strong families together, and support them fully until death do them part. So, instead of digging too deep into history, we’d rather pay more attention to the definitive traits of Russian ladies of today.
Unlike in most Western countries, Russian girls don’t expect men to love them the way they are by default. Russian brides club is extraordinarily competitive. So, if a Russian girl has set a priority to find a man to marry and keep him, she knows all too well that she must look attractive to him at all times – when she meets him, before they get married, on the wedding day (most importantly for her), and throughout their whole marriage (most importantly for him). In her mind, beauty is an organic combination of fitness and femininity. Therefore, she will pay great attention to her body, as well as her makeup and dresses.
She also realizes that an empty shell isn’t worth much, no matter how beautiful it may be. So, she is equally cautious about her inner beauty – spirituality, intelligence, humor, etc. She will always try her best to be able to have meaningful conversations with you on any subject, laugh at your jokes and make you smile. But she will also let you know if she thinks that you are saying something improper and find a way to do it without putting you down or emasculating you.
To get a glimpse of what’s going on inside her pretty head, we have to return to history, but we will take a look at more relevant aspects than witchcraft. So – traditionally, a man has always been the head of a family in Russia. In the USSR, this was somewhat shaken because the so-called Empire of Evil has granted women full emancipation much earlier than Western states. Hot Russian women got the opportunity to be doctors, professors, state officials, etc., but soon came the realization that focusing on career does not make a woman feel fulfilled. All these twists have lead Russian society to the point where parents encourage their daughters to get a good education and pursue their career ambitions but also teach them not to lose touch with their femininity – to be good Russian brides, wives, and mothers. But what makes a good wife and mother? Well, there are several aspects involved.
There are many myths about Russian cuisine circling around the world. The main one is that it’s all fat and is only good as a side snack for vodka. While it’s true that Russians famously like to sit down and have a big and nutritious meal washing it down with more than one shot, this makes it even more critical to have all the food healthy. Russians are keen on healthy natural ingredients for all their meals, and this is why Russian women for marriage will never treat their families with a TV-dinner from a supermarket – because she can’t be sure what exactly it truly consists of and she won’t trust it to be a healthy meal. She will always cook herself, just like her mother and grandmother did.
Another stereotype is that Russian women don’t like to cook anything other than Russian cuisine. That is only true to the point where she hasn’t mastered any other cuisine. People in many parts of Russia are still not very well-to-do economically. This is why Russian housewives have to be inventive to keep their cooking both tasty and healthy, and they have mastered this skill to perfection! Besides, Russian cuisine itself is not some stand-alone entity. For centuries, Russian cuisine has been borrowing the best from many other cultures. So, there’s no need to be afraid that your Russian wife will always stick strictly to her great grandmother’s cookbook. She knows how to combine ingredients and can make a real masterpiece even from a simple hot-dog. She will be a real chef who will take into account your every desire and find joy in treating you with delicacies every day!
If there’s one thing that even the most delicate Russian girl hates the most, it’s an untidy home. And if you are a lucky husband of such a girl, she will know that it is her responsibility to make your house into a proper home and keep it that way at all times. She will never claim that she is too busy or has better things to do. Importantly, she will not see it as a chore that stops her from enjoying herself. On the contrary, she will take great pride in how cozy and pleasant her family nest becomes thanks to her efforts.
Making and raising children is also not a chore and not even a duty for a Russian woman. For her, it is more about fulfilling her nature. If you choose to have children with a Russian girl, the only thing that you will need to be ready for is that you will have to share your place in the center of her attention with your toddlers. She will never willingly drop her baby onto a babysitter for the same reason why she won’t feed you with ready-made food from a supermarket – because she won’t have trust in such an approach. Only when the child grows older, she will encourage him or her to take as many extracurricular activities as possible – to let the kid try him- or herself in different activities and to help them fulfill themselves. At the same time, she won’t be doing it just to occupy the child to have more free time for herself. On the contrary, she will still inquire about the child’s progress in all these activities and actively support the child whenever necessary.
Still, most Russian women will never accept the role of a maiden whose sole interest is in having the house tidy and the family well-fed. Having her family take perfect care of may be her top priority, but it will never be the only one. Some may say that with all those errands, a woman will simply have no time left for anything else. A Russian woman will beg to differ – she will always find time to keep up with the latest trends, as well as to pursue her interests and hobbies, or even education and career. This is not only because she sees herself as a fully-fledged person and not only a housewife but also because she knows that her husband is not interested in only a nanny. For her, being a life partner also means being able to have an entertaining and meaningful conversation at dinner, take an active part in running family affairs, and overall remaining an interesting companion to her husband.
It may seem that such a perfect woman is somewhat “overqualified” to be a wife of a regular man. You may think – “She must have expectations of her own. Can I live up to them? Isn’t the bar too high for me?” Before you get discouraged, you need to realize one thing. What may seem like some heroic deeds to some is only natural for Russian brides. She doesn’t see all those things as something extraordinary or supernatural. Likewise, she will not expect anything extraordinary or supernatural from you.
If you accept her role as a traditional “wife,” it is only logical for you to assume the role of a “traditional” husband. First of all, you are expected to provide for the family materially. She is realistic and will not expect any royalty-like riches, but all the basic needs should be covered. Of course, she will not shy away from working and earning money herself, but it must never be a necessity. In the same time, you should remain a gentleman at all times and never stress on the fact that you are the one providing for the family even when it’s true. Same like she takes pride in taking great care of the home and family, you should take pride in providing for them well and not see it as a tedious chore or a heroic deed. It’s not unlike other aspects of being a gentleman – you help her with heavy bags, open doors for her, etc. not because she can’t do it herself, but because you’re a gentleman and it’s a nice thing to do.
Speaking of which, beautiful Russian brides just love it when a man is a proper gentleman. You should treat her like a lady down to the smallest details: compliment her new dress or hairdo, give her little presents like flowers and chocolates, etc. But you must not make it look superficial – they should not be like scheduled actions but rather as a sign of care. Speaking of care, you should inquire about her problems or whatever she has on her mind and listen to her. In turn, she will expect you tell her everything that bothers you and listen to everything you have to say in all attention.
We have already mentioned early emancipation of women as a part of the Soviet heritage of Russia. Another part worth mentioning is the internationalism. Very few Russian women have their mind set on marrying a man of a particular nationality. So, a Russian girl will seldom be keen on looking for a man in her country if she doesn’t find a proper groom soon enough. That happens quite often because there are considerably more men in Russia than women. Moreover, Russian men are famous for their excessive drinking, which makes them less desirable grooms.
There is a widespread opinion that Russian girls often seek to marry a foreigner just to get out of their developing country. It is true that many regions of Russia are economically depressive and that people desperately want to get out of there. You may have heard stories about “friends of friends” who have married Russian mail order brides and had to divorce as soon as those women got naturalized. It may be that some women in Russia do that, but if we are being honest, we will have to admit that this is not a specifically Russian phenomenon. There are selfish and ill-intended men and women everywhere in the world. As for Russian women, their upbringing makes them very serious about marriage and family-building. They would hate to marry someone with whom they can’t build a strong and happy family. So, if you have come to the point where you popped the question, and she said yes, you can rest assured that she will apply all her effort to build just that kind of family with you.
Looking for hot Russian brides, the first most natural idea would be to hop on a plane to Moscow and go hitting bars there. Splendid as it may seem, there are a few setbacks. First of all, you wouldn’t be the first guy ever to do so. Moscow is one of the most popular destinations for “wife-hunters.” As such, there is plenty of mischief going on in this area. You can become easy prey for a variety of gold-diggers and other scammers. The chances are that you might meet some nice girls, but they will most likely dismiss you because, to them, the fact that you have traveled all the way to Moscow and gone out in bars there does not look like a valid proof of your serious intentions. It is much more secure to go there with a clearer plan in mind. By this, we mean meeting Russian brides online and going to visit a girl that you already know and for whom you have serious intentions. Fortunately, this is largely facilitated these days.
Indeed, flying across the world searching for the love of your life is very romantic and adventurous. However, not every valid bachelor can and will do that. This would leave plenty of variables and not guarantee success. It would be a serious endeavor that might just not pay off. It is much more secure to use one of the dating services which are plentiful these days. Online dating does indeed have many advantages over conventional dating. You don’t have to spend time and money on going out with someone you barely know, you don’t have to invest effort into charming a person who may not be what you are looking for, you don’t have to suffer through the awkwardness if something goes wrong, etc. It is, however, also not as peachy as one may think. There are just as many (or even more) ways to get scammed online as offline, and there are just as many ill-intended individuals looking to do so. Hence, one should be extremely cautious when picking a dating website.
You may have heard numerous stories about online scamming. Such stories are often full of technical details that are beyond a regular person’s understanding. This makes them even scarier. It may seem impossible (or, at least, very time-consuming) to become tech-savvy enough to be able to dodge all that scam. In reality, however, it is much easier than one may think. All you need is to apply general commonsense and basic precautions. Here are a few tips: